severing the energetic cord
Written by Desmond Olubunmi · Founder of Sunya
The ultimate internal technology for untying the deepest knots of the heart. Releasing the heavy, stagnant energy of past grievances to reclaim your vital force and restore the fluidity of the inner system.
The conditioned self uses anger and resentment to maintain the rigid boundary of its identity. It builds itself around the story of being a victim. But holding a grudge is not just a psychological burden — it is a continuous energetic leak.
When you refuse to forgive, you construct a persistent connection between your heart centre and the object of your anger. Every time you replay the betrayal in your mind, you pump your precious life force into the past, keeping the knot of pain tightly bound in your chest. Forgiveness is not a passive act of condoning harmful behaviour.
It is the deliberate, ruthlessly effective act of taking your power back. By forgiving, you sever that connection, dissolve the dense tension trapped in your nervous system, and return the leaked energy to your own central channel. You are not doing this for them. You are doing it for yourself.
The autopsy of resentment: Identify anyone who has hurt you, or any grudge or resentment you are currently holding. Observe honestly how this resentment is consuming your vital energy, your clarity, your focus, and your happiness.
Recognise this brutal truth: this mental loop is draining your vital energy, not theirs. You are drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Compassion as a technology: To sever the cord, shift your perspective of the person who harmed you. Recognise that anyone who inflicts pain on another is operating from a state of deep unconsciousness and inner suffering of their own. You do not excuse the harmful act — but you recognise the ignorance (Avidya) that caused it. This shift from anger to objective compassion immediately stops the energetic leak.
The somatic release: Forgiveness cannot only be an intellectual decision — it must be a physical release.
Locate the exact physical sensation of the anger in your body: the tightness in the throat, the weight in the chest, the tension in the stomach. Breathe directly into it. On the exhale, sigh audibly and consciously allow the heavy energy to leave the body with the breath.
Reclaiming the boundary: Forgiveness severs the energetic cord to the past, but it does not mean you must welcome toxic behaviour back into your present life. You can completely forgive someone in your heart while simultaneously maintaining a clear, firm boundary to protect your peace. Release the anger. Keep the lesson.
Forgiveness is an entirely internal act. The other person does not need to know. They do not need to agree, apologise, or even be alive for this to work. It is something you do inwardly, simply by letting go — and in doing so, you free yourself from the burden of discord.
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